Double Trouble WEEK 7 - Part 2

We learned in our last lesson that the Blame Game escalates conflict which means it makes it worse very quickly. Remember the story of Adam and Eve. Did it help their situation to play the Blame Game?

There are the five ways the Blame Game can get worse or escalate. Can you identify which ways are missing below?

The Blame Game will not solve Nikki and Sammie's problem. Instead it will make their conflict worse. God explains what happens to people who play the Blame Game:

He who conceals his sins does not prosper, but whoever confesses and renounces them finds mercy.   Proverbs 28.13

You have learned this from previous lessons, but it is worth repeating:
No matter what others do, when you make a bad choice, you deserve a bad consequence. You would be smart to accept that consequence without playing the Blame Game. That way you can avoid getting into Double Trouble.

GETTING INTO DOUBLE TROUBLE

It is a choice to play the Blame Game, and this choice has consequences. When you choose to play the Blame Game, you could find yourself in Double Trouble. 
You will probably get a consequence for your bad choice and a consequence for playing the Blame Game. Let's say you break a lamp in your living room and you tell your parents your brother did it. They find out the truth and give you a consequence for breaking the lamp and a second consequence for lying about it.
In other words, you might get two consequences instead of one. The equation could look like this:

BAD CHOICE + BLAME GAME = DOUBLE TROUBLE
(C. Sande, pp. 79-80)

Workbook page 5-5 shows some of the extra consequences you might get for playing the Blame Game. Read through this page and think about making wise choices and avoiding Double Trouble.
Have a reader assist a non-reader in understanding workbook 5-5. Then have them read and answer their questions out loud.

Open your spiral to the next clean page. Complete the following questions in your spiral. Don't forget your NAME and DATE.
1. Copy your Bible verse into your spiral. Can you say and write it without looking?
2. Have you ever played the blame game? In what way? What happened?
3. Can you please God when you play the Blame Game? Why not?
4. Who deserves the consequences if Sammie cuts in from of Nikki and calls her names?
5. Who deserves the consequences if Nikki pushed Sammie and called her names?
6. If Nikki and Sammie chose to play the Blame Game, what kind of Double Trouble might they face?
7. Can you remember a time you got Double Trouble? What happened?
8. Look up the word "escalate" and copy the definition in your glossary in the back of our spiral.

Sande, Corlette. The Young Peace Maker Teaching Students to Respond to Conflict God’s Way, Illustrated by Russ Flint, Wapwallopen, PA 18660, Shepherd Press, 1997.

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